What You Perceive is What You Achieve.
You must have read or even heard this many times. Many people are now finally realizing the power it holds, but did you know that you can use this to empower your children? If no, then you are on the right page and you should continue reading. It is very easy for the little minds to lose confidence and hence as parents it’s our responsibility to understand and help our kids where ever we can.
Affirmations are positive, specific statements that help you to overcome self-sabotaging, negative thoughts. They help you visualize, and believe in, what you’re affirming to yourself, helping you to make positive changes in your life and career.
Why are they important? At the simplest level, when we feel good about ourselves and have a positive attitude, our lives tend to run smoothly. On the other hand, when we feel bad about ourselves and have a negative attitude, we tend to engage in self-defeating behaviors which may cause negative outcomes, like financial mishap, interpersonal drama, or acute or chronic illness. ( reference from https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/smart-relationships/201403/affirmations-the-why-what-how-and-what-if)
How can they help your children –
Growing up is tough. As parents, we may not realize the daily struggles of a child when he is at his daycare, or at his school. The constant pressure of doing well in studies, in sports or excel in curricular activities is sometimes too much to handle for the young minds. Have you ever realized that when we compare our children to someone else – how does that affect them? Well, that is probably the worst thing ever – you would do as a parent to your child. To discourage and humiliate you own child and making him feel less than someone else is not something that your child looks forward to from his parents.
They might not be able to excel in studies, sports or your expectations, BUT still, they need to know that IT IS OK. They need to know that you will be with them, for them in every circumstance. It is very important and critical that we build our children up, and we can do this every day by using affirmations.
Our mind is a very powerful tool and it can achieve anything that the mind believes in. Having said this – it’s not easy to train your mind. It takes weeks, months and years of practice to achieve the same. It also depends on a person’s willingness to accept and change.
Do you remember being bullied in your childhood or in your teen years – do you still carry that emotion thought with you? Maybe someone body shamed you? Also, what about the moments when your parents said something to you that still gives you strength to overcome obstacles? That is your mind programmed to thoughts. The body behaves to what the mind believes in. In the same manner, using the mind impressions – we can use these affirmations to mould our children into independent, confident beings.
The ideal time to say/repeat these affirmations – are just before kids sleep. These should repeat these with peaceful, strong emotion with their eyes closed.
Some of our favorite affirmations – that I practice at home with my children are –
- “Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better!”
- “I am proud of myself!”
- “I enjoy being happy and cheerful”
- “I know I’m important”
- “I can do anything I focus my mind on”
- “I enjoy helping others”
- I have lots of friends who love me.
- I trust in my abilities.
- I solve problems.
- I have lots of energy
- I am kind to others.
- I believe in myself.
- I believe in my dreams.
- I have the courage to be myself.
- I am okay with who I am.
- I am a winner
- I am proud of myself.
- I take care of my responsibilities.
- I am beautiful.
- I like being challenged.
- I am a bright student.
- I am important.
How to use these affirmations?
Each of these affirmations will only take effect – if you believe they will work. You can help them believing in it. It may take 3-4 weeks for the child to absolutely believe in these and these to set in their mind.
>> Write them on a paper and slip it in their lunch box or a notebook, where they will see it
>> Repeat them daily – like you would meditate. Ask them to close their eyes, breathe deeply and chant these
>> Encourage them daily to use these as per the situation they are in
Have you ever tried using affirmations or is this first time you are reading about them? Don’t forget to share your experiences with me, Like, share and comment on this and let other parents know how important affirmations can be for altering children behavior.
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