Having a positive relationship with your children is essential to their emotional and social growth. As a parent, it is our responsibility to start and develop a positive relationship. We think we are doing our best for them – but are we really?
“The children are our future. Teach them well and let them lead the way. Show them all the beauty they have inside.” – Whitney Houston
I struggle and have failed a million times when it comes to parenting. There are times I feel like an utter failure because I feel, I am unable to comprehend why my child is behaving a certain way. After all, Parenting does not come with a Wikipedia or a set of instructions, when you become one.
As we grow with our children – we try to figure out things. As we grow each year – we have new challenges, new situations, new tantrums and behaviors that drive us crazy! Do you relate? I hope you are able to !!
Starting January 2019 – Here are some things that I have promised myself that I will be doing to Develop a positive relationship with my children.
Developing a positive relationship with your child
Say YES more often
Have you ever counted the number of times we say NO to our children on daily basis? I am not sure, but my count must hit at least a 100 times a day. Imagine someone doing that to you. How would you feel?
Where do you think your child’s self-esteem will be?
Let them help you
Find a possible task for your child to do, like dusting the furniture, cleaning the kitchen with you, getting something from a nearby shop or working on cleaning something. This can help create trust between you and the child as well as boost their self-esteem.
Refrain from spoiling the child
Love knows no limits, right? Wrong! If we want to raise children that cherish what we do for them and will imbibe these qualities as they grow, we will have to set up some ground rules. Here are simple to do things that we all can follow –
Behave as a Good Role Model
Don’t Let Your Guilt Creep In
Learn To Say “No” when required and not always
Set Limits & Stick By Them
Teach them manners
Value money and show your children too
“Every word, facial expression, gesture, or action on the part of a parent gives the child some message about self-worth.”- Virginia Satir
Joining in with children’s experiences, celebrating their achievements and sharing joy helps them to know that they are special to you and builds their confidence in forming relationships with others.
Providing ‘teamwork’ experiences where each family member has a role and can share jobs, such as preparing dinner or tidying up, helps children to cooperate and develop a sense of independence.
Mindfulness means taking responsibility for our words and actions. Those who are mindful are careful and attend to what they say, and they don’t let their own negative emotions impact the people around them.
This is a great attitude towards building a positive relationship.
Positivity is attractive and contagious, and it will help strengthen your relationships with your colleagues. No one wants to be around someone who’s negative all the time. But we are human and things happen. When you have good relationships, you can also reach out to others when you are having a bad day. Perfect for building a positive relationship with your children.
Practice Active Listening
Children respond to those who truly listen to what they have to say. Focus on listening more than you talk when you are with them, and you’ll quickly become their best friend and will give birth to a positive relationship
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